Desire as a Rebirth Portal: How Longing Leads Us Back to Life

Loss cracks us open.

It rearranges the furniture of the soul.

It takes what we thought we needed—and leaves us naked in the truth of what we actually are.

But in the hollow ache that follows loss—of love, of identity, of certainty—something ancient begins to stir: desire.

Not the flashy, performative kind.

But a raw, holy hunger.

A yearning for aliveness. For touch. For breath.

For meaning. For more.

At Eros Rising, we don’t believe in bypassing grief with glitter.

But we do believe in the power of desire as a resurrection force.

🔥 Why Desire Matters After Loss

Grief flattens. Desire lifts.

Not in opposition to each other—but in partnership.

When you’ve lost someone or something you loved—

whether it’s a partner, a version of yourself, or a life plan that no longer fits—the psyche goes into shutdown. It protects. Numbs. Preserves.

But desire? Desire is the soul’s defibrillator.

It zaps you with life-force. It whispers:

You are not done yet.

🌹 The Feminine Art of Wanting

In the fog of loss, many of us are taught to silence our longing.

To be grateful instead. To be strong. To let go.

But what if desire isn’t something shameful to hide—but sacred to heed?

Desire says:

• I want connection again.

• I want to feel touch.

• I want to dance until I sweat through my grief.

• I want to be seen in my chaos, not just my calm.

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And that “want” isn’t selfish.

It’s survival.

It’s the beginning of your return.

🔥 How to Use Desire as a Rebirth Portal

Here’s how to work with desire consciously in the aftermath of loss:

1. Let Desire Be Small at First

It might start as a craving for sunlight on your skin.Or a particular kind of food.Or a playlist that makes you weep and sway.Start there.

2. Make Pleasure Safe Again

Trauma tells the body that joy is dangerous. That aliveness equals risk.Through breath, slowness, and sacred self-touch, begin to rewire the nervous system to trust pleasure again.

3. Write Your Wanting

Journal what your body, your heart, and your soul are hungry for now.No filters. No logic. Let your longings spill onto the page.Even the ones that scare you. Especially those.

4. Create a Rebirth Ritual

Light a candle and declare:

I honor my grief. I choose life again.

Dance, cry, self-anoint with oil, chant, breathe, scream—

whatever helps you feel like a phoenix with ash on her cheeks and fire in her eyes.

🌙 Desire Is Not the Enemy of Healing—It Is Healing

Your desire does not mean you're “over it.”

It means you're remembering yourself.

Reclaiming the parts of you that grief tried to bury.

Desire is not a detour.

It’s the path.

It’s your body remembering that you were made not just to survive—

but to thrive. To love. To rise.

Welcome to your rebirth, beloved.

Your desire is not too much.

It’s the matchstick.

The drumbeat.

The doorway home.

—💋 With heat & softness,

Mish @erosrising222

🕯️ PS: If you're moving through grief and craving intimacy with yourself again, check out our free Intimacy Taster Workbook—designed to gently guide you back to your pleasure and your power.